The Goal of Communication
The goal of any type of communicating or counseling is to assist people in changing how they may feel or even changing their behavior. There are all manners of theories as to what influences feelings, thoughts and behaviors, but one thing appears to be certain and that is that humor has a very positive impact on communications. Humor helps to facilitate communication, build relationships and even promotes listening in communication.
Humor can build relationships because it aids in bringing people together, you normally like and enjoy people that are humorous. When used in a therapeutic manner, humor can help create a bond or tie between the people and that helps to build a foundation from which communication may continue to grow and thrive. Usually, when someone uses humor then others will listen, using it when communicating is a non intrusive way of sending "messages" to one anther. Using humor is likely to catch someone's attention quicker and that means messages will have a better chance of being heard.
You may not be aware of this fact but, situations themselves have much less to do with feelings than do how situations are interpreted. It is not the idea that something happened that becomes the primary influence on your feelings; but rather it is the context and meaning that you put on an event. Using humor changes how people feel, you can’t experience humor and feel depressed, angry or anxious at the same time. An example of this would be reading an email that you have been dreading or one that you think is going to be bad news or at least some bad news, and finding one of those emoticons or smileys right there in the middle and you find your self smiling. Humor helps change the way people perceive events, possibly by providing perspective on a situation.
Naturally humor changes feelings and your behavior is linked with how you feel. When feeling good you may want to reach out to others as well as connecting with others and possibly become more open when experiencing new things, being open to possibilities and taking risks. On the other hand when you feel badly you tend to close off relationships and opportunities and withdraw.
While ones sense of humor is normally individualized and idiosyncratic, it is still based on a person’s perception of whatever stimulus is presented to them. Of course once any stimulus is being perceived as funny it triggers a reaction in that person. The reaction can be anything from physiological, cognitive, emotional or even combinations of all of them. Whatever happens, keep smiling.